Vicious Circles

The Love and Respect organization would probably be considered the polar opposite of an Aaron Lewis playlist, but these two sort of meet in the middle with the song, Vicious Circles.

Back in 2004, when I first read the book, Love and Respect, the very first chapter explains how husbands desire respect and wives desire love. They both give and they both get, and then they live happily ever after, right?

The goal to keep these two actions equally balanced and steady throughout a marriage is a daily choice that requires sincere commitment and dedication.

When one need is not met, then the other person often withholds their side of the deal and both people end up on what the book calls the merry-go-round or crazy cycle.

Now, this isn’t a cute, symbolic carousel with carnival music and bright lights (although those can be creepy).

Imagine it as a 1980’s death trap with the metal bolt base and rusty handrails. You run the risk of burning your hands and your butt in the summertime…or needing a tetanus shot.

Someone must decide to stop and step off of this rusty ride that will never reach any destination except to go in circles and make you sick.

If one has the courage and commitment to try and stop the crazy cycle, there’s no guarantee your spouse will follow. Do you stay the course, heal the burns and wait patiently to the side? Or do you revert back to your seat on the not-so-merry-go-round?

This is where I could insert any and every verse related to pride, humility, love, compassion, mercy and grace. When this type of love disintegrates, many couples reach a stalemate because no one will make the first move.

Only the Lord can lead you away from walking in circles in order to head North.

We have to listen to Him and not to the worldly opinions swirling around us.

In the country-rock ballad, Vicious Circles, Aaron Lewis laments of a relationship that leaves them dizzy with disdain from the unrelenting cycle of a rocky past.

dis·dain (noun) – the feeling that someone or something is unworthy of one’s consideration or respect; contempt.

Because, we run in vicious circles, Until we′re, dizzy with disdain, And there’s, miles and miles between us, Yet we still remain…

Songwriters: Aaron Lewis
Vicious Circles lyrics © Warner Chappell Music, Inc

Yet we still remain.



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