She’s not broken.

Psalm 42:5 says, “Why are you in despair, O my soul? And why have you become disturbed within me? Hope in God, for I shall again praise Him for the help of His presence.”

There were many things I did not understand.

Were conditions like anxiety and depression those invisible illnesses for the “crazy” or weak people?

Surely not.

What makes us all so different when faced with depression or even a traumatic event?

How do some people brush it off – when others collapse under the weight of it all?

Is it all spiritual? A mix of chemical, emotional and spiritual? A combination of things I wouldn’t even know how to describe?

If you are a believer and follower of Christ, can’t you just take those thoughts captive, and think on things that are only true, lovely, and praiseworthy?

(2 Corinthians 10:5, Philippians 4:8)

What if you do not know what is true?

Truth: It is most certainly a spiritual battle.

This doesn’t mean I do not believe in certain medicines or treatments, but if you do not approach this battle with the spiritual component of God’s Word – you will never overcome the root of the problem.

The Greek word for soul is where we get our word psychology. Our soul is the seat of our affections and will.

We have some soul work to do…

Someone once told me – when I asked how she dealt with a particular dark time for their family – that she was “living in the Psalms.”

That was years ago and since the original publish date of this post, I began a study in the book of Psalms.

It’s so much more than Psalm 23 and 119.

David knows anxiety and depression.

He also knows his God.

He knows Who formed the earth and reigns over everything, including his own fear, adversaries and foes.

He might have been hiding in the back of a cave at times, but he KNEW God Almighty was with him and the victory was already the Lord’s.

It still hurt. Wave after wave.

This sermon is a must for anyone who struggles with anxiety, or if you’re helping someone through this valley.

Truth: You might feel broken because you do live in a broken world and you are pursued by an enemy who hates your source of hope.

I believe this message can be the beginning of the end in our search for answers:

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  • 09.08.18 updated

RESCUE – Lauren Daigle


Additional research and resources:

John Piper teaches through Psalm 42:





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I also found this article below. It is not Christian-based, but I felt it deserved some space as well. It might even sound familiar to some.

The author and link are shown at the end. It is copied and pasted exactly as published.

‘She’s not broken’: To the man whose wife or partner has anxiety

You might have heard that she has anxiety from sitting by her side in a doctor’s office, holding her hands while the tears steam down her face. You might have seen her get angry and explode because she’s overwhelmed. Wondering where this rage has come from. You might have seen her sit quietly staring into the distance with a panic in her eye.

You might have guessed, or she might have told you, but either way there are things you should know.

Anxiety isn’t a one size fits all, it isn’t consistent and it isn’t always easy to tell. You might think she’s just snapped at you, but it was anxiety that did it, you might think she’s angry, but it’s the anxiety that’s got a choke hold, you might think she’s not enjoying herself when you go out and it’s your fault, but it’s not. It’s anxiety.

You know how she can’t understand when she asks you what are you thinking, why you would respond with ‘nothing’… it’s because she never thinks nothing. Her thoughts replay like a freight train in her head full steam ahead, over and over. It’s exhausting for her. It’s why she’s tired.

There isn’t a day that goes by where she doesn’t think. She thinks about everything, and usually it is the worst case scenario. She worries that something will go wrong. That some days if she leaves the house, something will happen. Kidnapping, deaths, falls, cars spinning out of control, that’s why she can’t just leave the house or just go out, even though you’ve suggested it with good intentions. But it’s not so easy. That’s why when she’s home alone or out by herself she will text you a million times, telling you her every move or telling you everything that’s going wrong, she knows you can’t change anything, she knows you feel helpless, but so does she, that’s why she needs to share it with you, otherwise her head will explode with panic.

Sometimes she wonders why you’re with her, and if you knew she had anxiety would you still be there, do you regret it? Being with her? Do you wish you were with someone else that didn’t have this vice around their neck?

I want you to know I see that this is tough on you, tough to see your loved one hurt, tough on you, the pressure for you would be immense. But don’t think for a second she doesn’t see you, don’t think for a second she doesn’t worry about you too. She even gets anxiety about you. She knows it’s not your fault, and she knows you want to fix her and in the way that means you help her, but you can’t fix her. She’s not broken.

But you can help her, you can loosen the vice. You can see what gets too much for her, the crowds of people or bed time, dinner time, see it and help her by holding her hand and tell her you’re with her. Do it with her, take over, tell her to sit down for a while and breathe.

If you see her struggling with appointments, reschedule them for her, encourage her to take it slowly. Too much is overwhelming for her, even though she has good intentions. Don’t make her feel bad for missing an appointment, a party, whatever. She wanted to go, but she couldn’t. She already feels bad. Tells her it’s okay. Take the kids out for a play when you see her struggling, encourage her to take time out for herself. If the kids are awake all night and she’s worse if she has less sleep, get up with her, take over. Tell her to go back to bed.

Sometimes the answer won’t be so obvious. Sometimes she won’t even know the answer is to what she needs, but so long as your patient with her, she will feel your love.

She or you won’t benefit if you get frustrated, it’ll just escalate and make both of you miserable. She doesn’t want her anxiety to define your relationship and when you are patient, you’re telling her you’re willing to do the same.

Anxiety is heartbreaking for her. Really it is. She wishes she could just feel free. The free feeling of just being carefree and not a prisoner to this ugly illness. Free of the voice that follows her listing all her insecurities.

Not every day will be bad, and those days should be celebrated, but on the bad days, still celebrate her, because she needs it.

She appreciates you, she loves you. She’s vulnerable and scared. But she chose you to share her biggest deepest scar tissue that resides in her heart, and she knew the day she met you that you were the one worthy enough to see her in all her imperfections. She will love you with that whole heart, and you know she will because she’s already listed the pros and cons… and just as you are by her side she will be fiercely loyal to yours. Forever and ever, you just to need take her hand and tell her, ‘I am with you.’


A wife, a woman and a momma who has anxiety.”

This story was submitted to Love What Matters by Laura Mazza of Australia.

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